1. Killing off older characters, or anyone offering help to the 'hero.'
First off this has become so freaking predictable. Some older person comes around an offers some grand wise advise. Moments later they are killed by a villain.
Please stop now. Please. If your 'hero' must proceed on their own, find some other way to seperate the characters.
I find plots much more enjoyable when they are mult-generational.
2. Character who is old and experienced gets their butt kicked by a noobie.
Okay. White belt meets black belt. And white belt not only easily wins but wins by a mile. Riiiight. How often do you seriously expect this to happen? Be honest now.
You might be able to explain it off by experienced fighter being off guard. Might. You can try "my goodness and virtue trump your skill." I might buy that. Once.
Seriously though. Experienced people should act accordingly. People just learning a skill should stumble. Let the noobie have to work and use strategy. It makes both characters believable.
3. Arranged marriages are terrible things, and only the woman can complain about it.
This is a two-in-one lament.
First the perception that arranged marriages are terrible things. How awful of your parents to marry you to a complete stranger. How unloving and uncaring.
Um in some cultures and time periods arranged marriages are/were normal and accepted. I'm willing to bet when possible the parents checked out the prospective spouse-to-bes. They just spent years supporting and loving their children. They would make sure their future spouse could take care of them.
Now some arranged marriages were made to create or solidify a truce. Okay. But that doesn't automatically make their spouse-to-be automatically bad.
Second issue: only women can lament about it.
Here's the obvious fact. It takes two people to make a union. Both of them are having their spouse picked out by their family. Both are in the same boat.
And yet I read about the woman lamenting on the unfairness of it all. Not the man. She cries. Not him.
The message to the future husband must be "suck it up and be man." And if he does lament: he's complaining, he's feeling sorry for himself (ignoring the fact the future bride is doing this), he's a wimp, a baby, etc.
Wow. What a message to send to all the men out there. Deal with it. Tough luck. Who cares how you feel.
It gets worse when he's portrayed with really bad personality problems. He's cruel, controlling, abusive, harassing, alcoholic, etc.
Then comes the cliche of the woman being rescued from this bad marriage by a handsome kind man. And I try not to gag.
How about a story where both people in this arranged marriage have to deal with the uncertainty of it all? They have to learn about each other. Maybe they're from different countries and cultures and have to learn those. They try together to make their marriage, their treaty, work. No over angsting. No handsome person to rescue them.
There are more plot points that irk me, but I'll just start with these.
- Location:Home, typing this on my iPhone.
- Mood:Meh.
Backing up now. A little over a month or so, I took Haku in for an oil change. It turned out my belts were cracking. The oil change place did not have them in stock. So as soon as we could, Giuliano and I took the car to Pep Boys to get the belts replaced. Now the priced they quoted on the phone turned out to be only for 1 belt. The person on the phone didn't realize there were 2. So they kept to the price and changed them.
A week later I started having problems turning my steering wheel. Then as I turned the wheel too far in one way or another, the belt squealed really loudly.
Haku went back to Pep Boys, but they were already busy with repairs. I mentioned the car was getting hard to turn and the person I talked to came out to look at the car. We turned the wheel as he watched. He said that when we turned it, the pump stopped working and the belts were getting frayed. Now Giuliano had checked the belts earlier, and one seemed loose. The guy pressed on it and said it was tight enough. The mechanic said the pump or the rack was failing. However they had to order a pump. As this was right before MLK, we worried who would be open. We decided to go to Subaru, the dealership, for the repair. If it was something slightly major, we wanted a professional taking care of this car.
My car went to Subaru on Jan 17th, and the verdict was.. the belt was loose, the pump is fine.
Now I had noticed a noise under the hood from time to time after the belts were replaced or so. But it went away, so I couldn't take it anywhere since they wouldn't hear it. The noise remained, even though I had hoped it was related to the previous car problems. Then it started to happen more often and get worse. Finally it didn't really go away.
So I convinced Giuliano to take Haku back to Subaru and an appointment was made on Jan 30th. At first it seemed that the crankshaft was bent. Then the news got worse.. much MUCH worse.
The bolt that held the pulley for the crankshaft got loose. The key ripped off and the end of the crankshaft got chewed up. Unfortunately by the time I heard the noise the damage was already done. The whole engine block had to be replaced. The rest of the engine was in good shape and could be rebuilt into the block.
Subaru lent me a loaner for free, a 2006 Subaru Legacy sedan (blue), complete with a sun roof and leather interior. I enjoyed driving it a couple of times, but I spent most of the time depressed about Haku.
Finally today I got word that my car repairs were done. The final verdict, the block was replaced with a new one, the oil pump was built into the block and was stuck so it was replaced, and the timing belt was stuck so that had to be replaced too. The repair cost just over $5,100. :(
Giuliano and I came to an agreement on the repairs. I, of course, cannot afford a repair that costly. So Giuliano paid for the repairs. In turn all of my tax refund will go to Giuliano to pay him back for repairs. I'll also most likely have to divert money to him whenever possible to continue to pay off the repairs. (Depending on how much of a refund I get.)
So instead of a nice dinner and a nice engagement ring for 5k, I got a new engine block, oil pump, and timing belt.
*Sighs.*
Well at least there aren't many big repairs left now. The car should last till at least 160k or so now, I hope. Now I just have to get used to driving Haku after driving the loaner for 3 weeks.
- Mood:
depressed
Quoted from the NPR report found here.
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lethargic

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awake
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Really excited
Within the first 100 or so miles after buying: (Car was bought at 50k)
- Radio replaced because back light did not work.
- All 4 tires
- Entire exhaust system minus catalytic converter
Within the first or second k or so miles of ownership:
- All 4 struts
- AC condenser
- AC fan
- AC converted to new system
- AC refilled several times
- Thermostat housing (?) - When I was loosing coolant on a daily basis. Literally had to refill coolant every evening. No pool of coolant seen on ground, ever.
Since my move to GA:
- Ignition module
- Both axles including CV joints/boots
- PCV Valve
- Timing belts and other belts replaced
- Water pump
- Front breaks
- That metal round part that connects tire to car via nuts, 2 replaced along with said nuts
Total cost of all repairs: ~$3,300.00
What needs to be replaced to finally fix AC:
- Compressor
- Drier
- Expansion valve
Cost for that repair ~$1,200.00
What I plan to do:
Buy a new (used) car. (Especially since I finished paying off the loan a couple of months ago.)
So until then I'm driving in 80-90 degree heat (plus humidity) in a car with NO ac. The people who checked my car's AC drained it cause the AC was leaking (yet again), and so now I have none, zippo, nada, big goose egg AC in my car.
Have I been giving Giuliano nasty looks for picking out such a bad car, and saying it'd be okay? Have I been grumbling about when he said "We'll repair the AC later." before buying the car (which meant I'LL repair it later)? Definitely to both.
There's nothing but pure hate for my car.
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frustrated
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excited - Music:Jakenpyon - Minimoni

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excited
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ranting
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aggravated
Me:

Giuliano:

- Mood:
content
- Mood:
frustrated
- Mood:
depressed and crying - Music:Tsukamaeteite - Yoroiden Samurai Troopers - Hana CD
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puzzled
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amused
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geeky - Music:Kamen no Shita no Namida - YST "Best Friends" CD
- I had a past due on my old account when I changed my cell phone number.
I pay my bills online. So when ATTWS gave me the new account number, I was no longer able to access my old one and pay my bill.
Of course I assumed that the old balance would get forwarded to the new account number. It did not.
So then I get an overdue notice in the mail. By that time, I didn't have the extra money at the moment to pay the bill (thanks to car breaking down). So of course I get another notice saying to pay now or be sent to collections.
I call ATTWS to pay my bill. I enter my old cell phone number in their automated system but it becomes soon apparent that someone else has that number now. So I have to hang up and call again entering my new cell phone number.
Finally someone takes my call and I have to explain the whole mess that I'm in. I tell them that I'm trying to pay on a bill on my old account. I have to be on hold so that she can find it. Finally after a few minutes she sees it and I pay it.
Now how pain in the butt was that to accomplish? If ATTWS didn't give me a new account number, or forwarded the old amount, this would have been be so much easier. - It messed up my ability to get an equipment upgrade discount.
Now for some really stupid reason AT&T's system bases your eligibility for that discount based off when your account started. It does NOT base it on when you actually bought the phone.
So, of course, because I got a new account number, I was no longer eligible for the discount on a phone I bought in Jan 2003.
This is probably the biggest problem that pisses me off the most.
I scoff now when I hear that I can upgrade my phone every year. Nooo. It's every year that you have the same account, NOT every year after you buy the phone. Of course they don't tell you that.
So now I have no choice but to buy a new phone at full retail value. Or get a discount by extending my contract 2 years. Fat chance of that happening.
- Mood:
disgusted
Edit/Update:
- Mood:
Puzzled
Worst Day Ever
- All 4 tires
- All 4 struts
- Entire exhaust system minus catalytic converter
- AC Condenser
- AC fan
- AC changed to new system
- AC fluid filled and refilled several times. AC still doesn't work and the AC fluid somehow still leaks out when it's in a gas form. Stopleak has been used at least twice and it still happens.
- Various other small parts.
- Mood:
sad
Here she is playing with our feather teaser toy.

And here she is sleeping.

Also I'm officially an Aunt! Here's the info I have:
Name: Ian Brogan Cooney. Born: 1:33AM on March 26 2004. Weight: 7 pounds, 3 ounces.
I'm so happy right now. :) Now if only I get this job, then all would be right with my world. (Well until Giuliano proposes that is. ^_~ )
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